“Korean” men and something else…

Something I’ve realized lately in this “dating” thing here in Korea is that it’s kind of odd. I’m not really a person that dates in the first place.So bleh~ I like being alone probably too much lol First let me answer the obvious that people seem to wonder about. Korean men are men first and Korean last. Now that the duh point is out the way let’s move along. This is about guys I’ve ran across while being here. So it’s not all Korean men ok? This can probably apply to some men in general no matter where they are from, but this is focused on the Korean men I have come across over the years here in Korea. Ok?

Ok. Now… A lot of the guys I’ve talked to are either over confident to try to make up for something they think they are lacking. Or…they have nearly no self-confidence. There are some in between with a balance but eh. That’s not the point of this. I get a good bit that pretend to be something they aren’t and then admit to having some “problem”.

Most of the time they are comparing themselves to other guys and what they think us females want. Which in the end they are guys with little to no self-confidence but pretended they had a lot…too much. I know there’s a ton of pressure on Korean guys. I feel for them a lot. Like I get stressed thinking about what is expected of most of them. *shivers*

Another thing, what makes one female like a guy isn’t going to work for the rest of the female population. I don’t know where they get that all us girls want the same thing. Ok granted we want a guy that is smart or at least has common sense. If he can hold a decent conversation that’s great. A college degree is preferred these days. If he has a job even better. Height and built depends on each female. We all like different types. Everything else it really depends on the girl and what she likes. Guys need to realize this.

For me I just want a guy who is real. Being able to communicate about different things freely. I know some guys are still in school. That doesn’t bother me. Get that education~ Some are around my height and that doesn’t bother me anymore. Heck being a year or two younger is now ok with me as long as we click well. If I can depend on them and feel free to be myself and them do the same. That’s all I really want. It’s so simple yet so difficult to find. A lot of guys seem skeptical like I’m going to ask them to pay my bills or buy some expensive handbag.

Granted I want a Moldir bag but I shall buy that with my own money that I save up. It would be awkward if a guy bought something like that for me. I don’t think I would like it. I’m shivering at the thought of someone paying that much money in something for me. I wouldn’t be able to take it without feeling stressed. Heck I pay for my own dinner or treat them to something shocking them. I don’t need a man to take care of me. I want someone to be an equal with.

Some guys expect too much from themselves. Which gives them more pressure than they need. In the end it’s kind of sad when they finally break down those barriers and begin to be themselves. They release the doubts that they have and the standards they think they have to live up to. Some of these things become a problem because they are always comparing themselves to someone else. Thinking they should be better. Thinking that they are not good enough for whatever reason. Not realizing that they are great the way they are. There are a ton of great guys that are good guys and they don’t know it. Hopefully they will all find someone to let them know they are perfect the way they are.

So guys in general. Females too.Being like everyone else will be boring. Having certain quirks make you unique. Being different isn’t a bad thing. Embrace yourself for who you are not who someone else wants you to be. We all have flaws. So what? There’s someone out there that will love them. Believe in yourself. Don’t follow others; lead, or just go on your own path. Not everyone is going to like you. If you fail dust yourself off and move along. Most of all…be yourself. Until next time~안녕~